My self love challenge this month is a psychological (behavioral) cleanse. One I choose to do by myself, for myself.
Our outlook and mentality towards life is what shapes our opportunities, challenges, fortunes and misfortunes. I saw a quote this week that reads;
We’re all in the gutter, some of us are simply looking up to the sky and can’t see the filth.
Here is a list of habits I’ll be letting go of for my mental health and progress;
Yes I admit it. I’m a quitter! When I feel like an endeavor might fail, I convince myself I don’t really want it and then as easy as saying “pie” I’m able to just walk away.
I avoid “embarrassing myself” by failing, and also avoid a possible victory or opportunity to grow. This habit has got to go!
My mission is to give 110% in everything I do for myself moving forward. I know I can do it because I go all out every single time for others, but then bail out when it’s mine. I almost feel like cursing at this point at how frustrating this habit is.
This boils down to my over pragmatic (and sometimes pessimistic) outlook on things. I need to change my “glass half empty” mentality by cultivating a positive mental attitude.
Poor time management(the busyness bug).
Honestly I think poor time management should be a sin. It’s that serious. I’ve always been very time conscious – still am, so I’m not even sure how I suddenly (through last year) became what I seriously detest – A person who is always so busy but hardly accomplishes anything.
So I’m scrapping the word “busy” from my personal repertoire of words until I can use it the way it should be used, not to mask; un-productivity, inefficient time management and a gross lack of direction.
Fear of leaving my comfort zone/taking risks
I am currently in the air right now flying out of state to attend a conference, and it just occurred to me (like it does whenever I’m flying) that I really do love flying.
On the other hand, I’m not a good risk taker but will always feel a deep profound joy whenever I finally let go or take a leap of faith.
Considering how empowering and rewarding it feels every time, I really wonder why it doesn’t get any easier. Either way, I need to learn to step out of my comfort zone one baby step at a time.
Overthinking and fear of failing
It’s ridiculous how hard I am on myself. I overthink things, berate myself mercilessly on the possibility of failure and then (obviously) successfully scare myself out of doing anything.
Nobody sabotages my hopes & plans like I do. That’s just so bad!
This one I can say that I’ve honestly outgrown. I’m at the point in my life where I really don’t care anymore if I’m understood or not. Dropping this habit is going to give me so much peace!
I already started it and realized I don’t miss it at all. I feel so much more powerful and unburdened knowing I don’t have to care what the next person thinks. As long as I satisfy my conscience and responsibilities, I’m good.
Not keeping in touch with loved ones
This is an important one for all of us living in this fast paced world today that’s crowded with noise but devoid of real connection.
My mum and I live in different countries so it’s hard to stay as connected as we want to, but I don’t even call as often as I know I should. There’s literally no excuse for not picking up the phone and calling a few times a week. Non at all!
Not counting my blessings often enough
Gratitude is key to a fruitful and glorious life so I have been working on this since the start of this year. I want to adopt a mentality of “when in doubt, count your blessings.”
I honestly believe that thankfulness and gratitude can create miracles and open doors where we never expect, and exactly when we need it so I’m sticking to this one.
Other Bad Habits I’ll Have To Live With For Now
- Being too nice
- Zero tolerance for literally everything
- Not giving second chances
- Bad/irregular eating habit
- Taking too much coffee
- Being too lazy to socialize
What I’m Reading
Red, white and royal blue by Casey McQuiston (z-lib.org) — A free source for books.
This should be an interesting experience. Wishing you all a fantastic week❤️