Disappearing Language: A Reading List on Losing Your Native Tongue

Powerful reads on which language comes first, second, or even third.

Disappearing Language: A Reading List on Losing Your Native Tongue

I found this piece from Longreads to be painfully relatable yet comforting to know it’s a shared feeling.

Identity Beyond Brands & Status: Who Are You?

“I am successful because I can. I can, because I am!” – How far you go in life depends on what you believe you can achieve, and what you believe you can do depends on who you see yourself to be.

So ultimately, the question of the day is “who are you?” Or better phrased; “who do you think you are?”

You need to take some time to think about this as it is the cornerstone of everything and anything you do in life.

This is why confidence appears to be the key to success. Also why the moniker; “fake it until you own it” is so popular, because it presents a quick fix to this complex existential (beyond just identity) crisis.

But is there really a quick fix? The answer is of course – NO! Quick fixes have their uses; but what they never really do is truly fix the problem.

Like a painkiller can soothe your pain, but to make it go away, you’ll need to find and cure the real problem – as the pain is merely an indication of a bigger problem.

So what is the real fix then? Well, let’s go back to the beginning and read the first paragraph again. The solution is to take the time to answer the question;

“Who are you?” Not who people say you are, or who your fancy degree says you are, or even who you pretend to be (we’ve all been there), but “Who do you think you are?”

When you look at yourself in the mirror, who do you see? In those quiet moments when the hustle and bustle of the day is over and the world with it’s noise finally goes silent, who do you see?

A blurred reflection of a woman

Those moments when you let yourself take off the mask you present to the world in order to survive it’s demands, who do you see?

It’ll be nice if a quick hack could fix this need for our identity (whatever it is) to be validated and wholeheartedly accepted, but it can’t.

Quick fixes are the reason you see someone looking bright and thriving one moment and the next moment you hear of their suicide. THIS IS VERY REAL.

  • The need for increased mental health advocacy and awareness cannot be understated.
  • The need for us as individuals to stop🛑 measuring ourselves by social or societal standards cannot be understated.
  • The need for us as individuals to have a real identity that we can ourselves accept before diving into the cesspool of fake existences crowding the world today cannot be understated.
  • The need to separate society’s acceptability standards from our acceptability of ourselves cannot be understated.

Finally, the need for real human support groups of family and friends absolutely cannot be understated!

We need to promote real human to human interactions beyond brands and statuses and what not.

Our pursuit of success can be put on hold from time to time while we check how our neighbor is doing.

I am personally guilty of not checking up on my loved ones enough, which is weird since I’m not even that genuinely pre-occupied.

I realize it’s a bad habit I acquired somehow from all this fake busyness consuming us today. We have to break the cycle together!

The post Identity Beyond Brands & Status first appeared on Medium by Tia Nnebo

What Inspired Me This Week

From timely writing inspiration to Greek gods, here’s a list of things that inspired me this week.

I’m definitely looking forward to a great week after finding these timely bits of inspiration over the weekend.

1. Writing Inspiration

I was feeling down a bit about the challenge of keeping my dream to write full time alive.

Here’s a piece that really gave me the boost I needed to stop beating myself up over my imperfections and just keep going.

You can check it out if you find yourself in a slump especially as a writer.

Or this article from The Writing Cooperative; Why You Should Write Daily Even If You Hate It

Or check out one of my very own articles that I rediscovered for myself at such a timely moment; Perfectionism or Self-sabotage?

2. Influence of social media in our lives today

Today we have Influencers leading the way in society instead of leaders and we continuously seek validation in the wrong places and things.

Widespread influence and amassing likes on social networks has taken the place of integrity and love. We need a paradigm shift to a time where we lived and fought for the right reasons.

Influencers or Leaders? Validation or Invalidation?

This is a short read about my thoughts on the wrong influences that’s swallowing up our core values as a race, inspired by a bible passage.

3. What I’m Reading. . .

I decided to get back into reading as I’ve always loved to read. What better book to start with than a potentially tantalizing fantasy – a modern retelling of Hades & Persephone no less!

About the book:

Society darling Persephone Dimitriou plans to flee the ultra-modern city of Olympus and start over far from the backstabbing politics of the Thirteen Houses.

But all that’s ripped away when her mother ambushes her with an engagement to Zeus, the dangerous power behind their glittering city’s dark facade.

With no options left, Persephone flees to the forbidden undercity and makes a devil’s bargain with a man she once believed a myth…a man who awakens her to a world she never knew existed.

Hades has spent his life in the shadows, and he has no intention of stepping into the light. But when he finds that Persephone can offer a little slice of the revenge he’s spent years craving, it’s all the excuse he needs to help her—for a price.

I’ve read works from this author before so I’m super excited to check this one out. Particularly since I’m a sucker for greek mythology themes. I’ll be sure to post a review after reading.

I wish you all a beautiful week ahead. Stay safe, remain blessed and keep fighting!

Influencers or Leaders? Validation or Invalidation?

The world today is twisted so badly that we don’t know what’s the truth anymore. Right and wrong have become relative concepts and we seek validation in places and things that have no real value. 

Things like wealth, fame, follower-ship, widespread influence and amassing likes have become the cornerstone of our existence as a race while we abandon principles of love, unity, friendship, integrity, spirituality and true leadership. 

Even most of our religious leaders today seem to equate financial success with spiritual strength. They consider their wealth irrefutable evidence that God is blessing their ministries. Perhaps they don’t actually believe that but have simply given in to the demands of society today. 

These leaders should be the ones to light the way like Jesus did. Yet, Jesus didn’t operate under these principles. Changed lives – not widespread influence or wealth were the validation of His ministry. 

Where is the integrity in today’s leadership then? It seems like somewhere along the way we’ve lost our way as a race. Now we need to reverse our course, one individual choice at a time until we can achieve some kind of herd awakening.

Stay safe everyone and remain blessed. Happy Sunday!

Saturday Reflections: Memories of life in the box

I remember a time long ago; long before I had seen the wonder of streets awash with lights and the marvel of satellite and the Internet, long before I learnt to stop believing in magic and to fear people.

Dad was always busy then, he thought he needed to give us a better life, and he did I suppose. Mum was always smiling, and thought a family should do this and should do that.

She would put her hands gently atop both our heads and say to us; “you must remember, as a family to always have a meal together, and to hold hands while saying grace, and of course to greet each other every time you rise in the morning”. I wonder though if she remembers.

The fondest memories of my childhood is of that time; a time when we didn’t know so much and had even less. A time when we lived in a box, as mum would lovingly call our little home.

I remember we had a neighbour a year older than I was. We did everything together. I even had to start kindergarten a year earlier so we wouldn’t be separated.

I particularly remember our little dips in the neighbourhood lake, how we would clutch each other while shivering and giggling and got scolded till our ears quivered every time. Though not as much as we got scolded for climbing the big old mango tree, or for trampling Mrs Hassan’s tomato plants while we played hide and seek.

A Literary TSwift Mashup From Your Wildest Dreams

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling … like there’s little I love more than an interesting combination, especially if it’s unexpected. Salt on my …

A Literary TSwift Mashup From Your Wildest Dreams

I found this really fascinating and purely ingenious!

Particularly because I’ve recently been considering the idea of starting a book blog/gram/tok, but can’t seem it come up with a concept that is natural, original and interesting.

I wonder if I can harness the idea of a mashup of existing ideas to birth something entirely new. That’s an interesting thought.

Haiku #1 – Envy

Here is my very first attempt at haiku writing. I am honestly fascinated with modern poetry and just starting to learn about it.

This was written in response to the image prompt☝🏽and word prompt – Envy.

Hopefully, this will be a not-so-bad attempt at haiku writing. I really want to get better so please let me know what you think in the comments. Thanks 🙏🏽


Night bathed in jade
Writhing dark thorns of envy
Yearning moon’s twilight 

Haiku written for Eugie’s Weekly Prompt – Envy, February 15, 2022

#Reflections: An Essay On Loss, Hope And The Start Of A New Journey

I used to love writing personal essays but realized I had stopped doing that (I felt insecure about my writing). I’ve decided to re-start my essay writing (maybe even try some poetry) under the #Reflections tag.

This was my very first blog post and still one of my personal favorites. I’ll love to hear your thoughts and appreciate any pointers you might have. Happy reading!

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