Sunday Post #1: Influencers Vs Leaders? Validation Vs Values?

The world today is twisted so badly that we don’t know what’s the truth anymore. Right and wrong have become relative concepts and we seek validation in places and things that have no real value. 

Things like wealth, fame, follower-ship, widespread influence and amassing likes have become the cornerstone of our existence as a race while we abandon principles of love, unity, friendship, integrity, spirituality and true leadership. 

Even most of our religious leaders today seem to equate financial success with spiritual strength. They consider their wealth irrefutable evidence that God is blessing their ministries. Perhaps they don’t actually believe that but have simply given in to the demands of society today. 

These leaders should be the ones to light the way like Jesus did. Yet, Jesus didn’t operate under these principles. Changed lives – not widespread influence or wealth were the validation of His ministry. 

Where is the integrity in today’s leadership then? It seems like somewhere along the way we’ve lost our way as a race. Now we need to reverse our course, one individual choice at a time until we can achieve some kind of herd awakening.

Reboot your mind and rejuvenate your body

Stay safe everyone and remain blessed. Happy Sunday!

How to press refresh and reboot your mind & body

It’s the weekend again! A time to de-clutter your mind, rest your body and restore your energy. The reason people are so tired on Mondays is simply because they carry over the stress from the previous week.

We all need healing after the demands and pressure from our work, relationships and responsibilities, so it is very important to release, restore and restart our systems from time to time.

How to make the most of your weekend

5 Tips For A More Productive & Rejuvenating Weekend

For the past few weeks, I’ve been so stressed that I’ve spent most of it on the move or in a daze. Even now while still at work, I can literally feel my brain buzzing and overwhelmingly crowded with all the things I have to do at work at the coming week!

So I decided to carry out a few rituals (3 actually) this weekend to help me de-clutter my mind and relax my body.

The first one is to simply;

Let it All Out.

Find your own way to release all the pent up energy creatively. For me, I intend to write it all out as much as I feel the need to. This weekend will be a major journaling weekend for me.

You could choose to express yourself through art, or dancing, or maybe you’ll prefer to seek inspiration outdoors and take photos. Whatever it is, just let it out and feel how refreshing unburdening yourself and clearing up your mind can be!

Next is to Exert Yourself With Some Productive Physical Activity.

At this point, I will advice some exercise or workout as we all know of the rejuvenating effects it has on the body and mind. Or you could choose a complete clean up and make over of your living space – which is actually what I’ll be doing.

Well, more like I’ll be packing up and moving to a new place (which by the way is a huge part of my stress), whatever works for you.

The idea is not to tire yourself out doing pointless chores, but to find a good physical release for your pent up energy, exert yourself fully then you go to the third ritual . . .

Lots and Lots of Rest and Sleep.

Guess what I’m most excited about doing this weekend? Yes, you got it – sleep. Lots of it!

Not every weekend is for getting your grooves on. Sometimes all you need is simply to rest and sleep.

There is ample evidence to prove that sleep is the single most important thing you need to rejuvenate your mind and body.

So change those sheets, plump up your pillows and be sure to catch up on your sleep this weekend!

 

Maximize your weekend with these 5 easy tips

Lately I find myself feeling like a fraud whenever I join the throng of workers to “Thank God it’s Friday” in celebration of the coming weekend.

Of course I’m just as excited for the end of the work week and the coming rest days, or day in my case…and that, exactly is the problem – I work 6 days a week including Saturdays!

So for anybody who like me has a very very short weekend, ever wonder how to fit in all you have to do and still be able to have some time for yourself?

For me I use a weekend bucket list!

Google Keep: My Weekend Bucketlist

This is basically my weekend bucket list, simple and relaxed. Courtesy: Google Keep

Of course it doesn’t mean you have to set some stiff goals for yourself for the weekend, but more like a wish list plus some necessary chores you have to take care of over the weekend.

This way you don’t feel overwhelmed through out the day or 2 you have, and wake up to the new week feeling just as tired as the end of the previous week.

The wish list is important to remind me of things I want to do (and will definitely do) once I get any opportunity to – like a work leave or vacation!

You can create yours however you like, as long as you keep in mind to make it simple and practical.

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Wake up at the same time

Resist the temptation to stay in bed all morning and you’ll find your day will be longer and more productive. Dedicate some hours in the morning as me time. You can choose to dance to a playlist, do some exercise or self care. Whatever will kick-start your weekend in a happy and relaxed mood.

Minimize chores

We all think we have far more things to do than actually needs to get done at that particular time. So it’s best to make a list of everything you feel you need to do, then minimize the list as much as possible. The absolute worst way to spend a rest day is to cram it with chores.

Spend quality time with loved ones

The weekend is undoubtedly a good time to reconnect with family and friends. My family lives far away so I can’t see them as much as I want to, but I dedicate some time on Sunday afternoons to have long, refreshing phone calls with them, and I can assure you it’s a wonderful feeling.

Tips to have a successful weekend (finish your tasks, have some well deserved rest and be ready for the new work week)

Disconnect from the internet

So you have a day or 2 to refresh yourself, and you spend most of it answering work emails or stuck in the social media web – very bad idea! Best thing to do for yourself is disconnect temporarily while you mind other more personally rewarding activities.

Finally, don’t forget to rest!

No matter what else you have planned, try to find the time to just lay back and rest.

For most of us, the weekend is already in full swing so enjoy!

How To Break The Crippling Habit of Inaction

Make it happen…

It’s super easy to fall into a habit, especially when all you have to do is . . . Nothing! We all know what we should be doing right now, or at least what we need to accomplish at this moment.

Then why aren’t we doing them? Why aren’t we chasing those goals and acting on our abundant ideas? Simple.

The comfort of “not doing” has become a habit!

It’s incredibly easy and safe, no expectations and no disappointments so of course it’s the easiest habit to acquire. But is it the happiest? Or the most fulfilling? Or even the most worthwhile way to spend our lives? I don’t think so.

The Solution; Break The Habit!

How? Start. Doing. Right. Now.

Get up, pick up that piece of paper and start writing, open a savings account for your travel fund.

Register right now for that degree and climb the finance mountain when you get there.

Start accepting invitations to go out whether you feel like it or not.

Sign up for that course you’ve been dreaming of taking but have been too practical or afraid to try.

Basically, resolve to not sit still anymore. It’s your life you’re wasting “not doing” and you can’t get it back. It’s absolutely not okay to spend it going through the motions. Reject it now!

Remember that doing beats not doing always, no matter the outcome of trying.

You want to build your dream house but you don’t have the funds, then start buying bricks!

It may sound silly buying bricks when you don’t even have land, but try it and you will be amazed how things just come together by themselves.

What good will sitting and wishing do? The end result is that you will sacrifice those dreams and have lived an unhappy life.

Happiness is not as unattainable as we make it out to be, if we can just start doing something, anything towards our own fulfillment.

The Logic:

Of course planting a forest is a daunting task for anybody, but those who have succeeded understand the principle of planting one tree at a time.

Happiness will not come to us, we need to reach it by taking one step after another and its through the journey that we attain fulfillment not the destination.

How To Get Yourself From Where You Are To Where You Should Be

Ever wondered why you’re where you are now and not where you feel you should be?

Perhaps you started out quite well, had a good education, made great plans for your life but somehow things didn’t turn out quite how you expected it to.

Well, you’re not alone. In fact I am sure that this is a scenario many people can relate to. It would seem that life simply has a way of dealing us surprises. But are they really surprises?

What I have learned in my short but quietly eventful life is that being prepared actually reduces these surprises. How prepared are we to face the ever evolving demands of society, its needs, its requirements to succeed and even its gaps.

Are we developing our minds and skills in time with these changes or do we just sit and hope for better days, or wonder why we aren’t as relevant as we once were?

There’s a lot to be said about starting out well, but if you fail to understand the changing needs, and advancements in today’s society then you’ll certainly fall behind those who do.

So how do you ensure you’re prepared to face the ups, downs and turns of life?

Here is a list of 10 easy lifestyle hacks to help you always stay on top;

  1. Be a life long learner
  2. Don’t think its ever too late to gain a new skill or qualification. It isn’t. Ever!
  3. Immerse yourself in life, in the here and now. Don’t just be an observer!
  4. Take advantage of every opportunity to learn something, meet new people and broaden your horizon.
  5. Step out of your comfort zone. Embrace life!
  6. Be open minded. Stay curious and open to new experiences.
  7. Develop any skills you already have. Don’t take any ability you have for granted.
  8. Love life. Find joy in life or it will be impossible to live it.
  9. Put your heart into it. Whatever you find yourself doing, do it to the best of your capacity.
  10. Be Grateful! Above all, remember to be thankful for how far you’ve come.

Though you may not be where you hope to be, but that you’re here now means you have made some progress and most importantly, you’re alive so its not over. In fact, its far from over.

At times like right now, when I remember what I really want my life to be like I feel a renewed determination to live life to the fullest, to learn every step of the way and to love my life as it is.

How To Overcome A Lack Of Motivation In Your Life

Get back up, dust yourself off and stay on track.

Ever wondered how to get back on track with life? Well, you’re not alone.

Many of us had new year resolutions and set goals to achieve this year, but just how many steps back have you taken from those goals already. Do you even still remember them? Or have you simply given up on them?

These are basically the questions I’ve been asking myself the past couple of days. It’s actually depressing how life just swoops in and snatches our dreams and aspirations from us – but that’s only if we let it!

Just thinking of how frustrating it’s been for me to keep up with my goals while I had to face some pretty tough moments, I feel victorious to be able to pick up myself and keep going forward.

Personally, I refuse to think of how many steps back I’ve taken this year from my goals. I simply want to celebrate the fact that I’m still here, still moving forward, and still VERY determined to achieve my goals.

This year I have come so close to giving up many times already, and just dealing with the many curves life has thrown at me. I’ve told myself “What’s the point of even trying” many times – and almost believed it.

But in the end, what’s important is that I didn’t quit when I thought I would. So DO NOT GIVE UP!

Despite all the discouragement, and ‘reality’ trying to force its way down your throat. If you remember what you wanted for your life in the first place, and why you wanted it. If you are even just still alive, then anything is possible – So Get Back Up, Dust Yourself Off and Stay on Track!

Year-end blues…

We are just a few months away from the end of this year and some of us may still be inspired to meet all our goals and milestones which is great, but we all know how easy it is to get off track. Very easy in fact.

So how do you stay on track to ensure you achieve everything you set for yourself this year?

Here are some easy ideas to help you keep the momentum and stay motivated on making the year more productive and rewarding for you!

  • Wake up an hour or 2 earlier than you need to everyday:

One of the factors that can ruin a whole day right from the start is having to rush through your morning routine and starting your day without any plan.

Give yourself some time to be thankful for the fact that you’re alive and well. Establish the habit of gratitude to the Almighty each morning and you’ll be surprised how much boost that could give you to tackle your day.

  • Make a habit of visualizing your day:

You can do this by simply going over the tasks you want to accomplish for the day. Make a list if you like, arranging them in order of urgency and importance.

Visualize not just the tasks, but the time and resources you may likely need to accomplish them. This gives you a sense of focus and drive needed to start the day.

I do this every morning before getting up from bed, and this is what gives me that adrenaline shot I need to kickstart my day. My family make jokes about how I jump up from bed wide awake and immediately focused on a task as if I had been dreaming of it, which is almost true.

  • Positive affirmations:

Make it a habit each day to mentally or verbally recite how exactly you want your day to be, who you want to see and want others to see when they look at you.

It doesn’t have to be anything complex. Just a few positive statements will empower you is all you need. Like saying; I am beautiful. I am a winner. Or I am a mentor who’s life will be an inspiration to those around me. 

These affirmations will not just help you develop a positive mental attitude, but also cause your mind to subconsciously start establishing these characteristics within you.

  • Reduce distractions and interruptions:

Thanks to the increasingly advancing world, the sources of distraction around us are on the high. From our work to personal emails, social media, phone calls, Netflix and so on.

There will be no limit to the distractions if we don’t consciously create one. Speaking from personal experience, allowing these distractions free reign can lead to severe psychological & mental drain.

Do not expend your valuable energies on things or people that cannot improve your life and work. Set out some time during the day when you will allow no interruptions, and be firm in detaching from people or technology when you need to.

  • Reflect on your day:

At the end of each day, dedicate some time to reflect on what you accomplished or didn’t, and ways you could have done better.

You could set out the last 15 minutes of the day to your reflection or like me, do it while commuting back from work. I usually use this time to form a rough plan of what my next day will be like. Keep in mind, this is not the time for self criticism but quite the opposite.

Even if there are unsatisfactory areas, open your mind to learn from them and resolve to do better.

Comfort yourself with the knowledge that you are better today than you were yesterday.

So considering how easy it is to get off track, I’ll personally like to celebrate the fact that I am still in the race, and as determined as ever to keep on going! Everyday is a day to celebrate our VICTORY over life’s trials and all its lemons!

Don’t forget that being a work in progress is also a great achievement!

Memoirs #1: Diaries of yesterday

I remember a time long ago; long before I had seen the wonder of streets awash with lights and the marvel of satellite and the Internet, long before I learnt to stop believing in magic and to fear people.

Dad was always busy then, he thought he needed to give us a better life, and he did I suppose. Mum was always smiling, and thought a family should do this and should do that.

She would put her hands gently atop both our heads and say to us; “you must remember, as a family to always have a meal together, and to hold hands while saying grace, and of course to greet each other every time you rise in the morning”. I wonder though if she remembers.

The fondest memories of my childhood is of that time; a time when we didn’t know so much and had even less. A time when we lived in a box, as mum would lovingly call our little home.

I remember we had a neighbour a year older than I was. We did everything together. I even had to start kindergarten a year earlier so we wouldn’t be separated.

I particularly remember our little dips in the neighbourhood lake, how we would clutch each other while shivering and giggling and got scolded till our ears quivered every time. Though not as much as we got scolded for climbing the big old mango tree, or for trampling Mrs Hassan’s tomato plants while we played hide and seek.

5 Habits Harming Your Success Efforts And How To Fix Them

Do you feel like where you are in life right now is below your expectations?

Perhaps you started out quite well, with big dreams and a great vision; and maybe even had some pretty nice achievements back in the day. But somehow, somewhere everything seems to have screeched to a stop and you’re left with the bad taste of your unrealized expectations.

If this sounds familiar, its definitely not too late to pick up where you left off or start afresh.

Here are some of the things you may have been doing wrong and how to turn things around starting now.

  • Are your goals unrealistic?

As inspiring as it is when we decide we want to take on really big record making goals, most often these things may be unrealistic. Or perhaps we are not considering our own reality while setting these goals, and we end up setting ourselves up for disillusionment and near certain failure. Of course this is not to say we can only set small safe goals, certainly not! We simply need to aspire towards what we feel truly passionate about and goals we know we can weather any storms to achieve.

  • Are you listening to the wrong voice?

Which voice have you been listening to? Are you listening to that little voice in your head, telling you why you simply aren’t that good and can’t do something or the other? Or maybe it’s the voice of your friends and family telling you what you “should be doing instead for your own good”?

Why don’t you shut out all these voices, take control of your own inner voice and tell yourself exactly what you want to do and WHY YOU CAN DO IT!

How To Build A Mindset That Will Take You To The Top And Keep You There

You’re stronger, smarter and much more talented than you’re currently giving yourself credit for. So what if someone somewhere couldn’t do it? Someone somewhere can and has done it. Why can’t it be you?

  • Do you constantly compare yourself with others?

Why do we do this, when we can’t even see a real picture of the next person from where we are standing? Yet, there seems to be a compulsive need for us to measure our success with what we perceive as the successful lives of those around us. The grass is always greener and all… But that’s just it! If you were to swap lives for a moment with that person you think is more successful or happier, you’ll be shocked at the reality you will find.

Perhaps they’re more successful because they work harder than you can imagine and sacrifice all the pleasures that you enjoy. Or maybe they’re happier because they have mastered the magical art of contentment. You never know, and you don’t really need to know.

All you need is to mind you. Find inspiration in others, but never ever compare yourself to them.

  • When did you last learn a new skill?

To stop learning is like suicide to the mind, a gradual drain (and eventual death) of our energies and inspiration. Sometimes when things are working so well for us, we may think we have no need to improve on ourselves but the truth is quite the opposite.

We need to continually improve on ourselves, and expose our minds to new things and experiences. How else do we stay inspired? One of the things I’ve come to understand is that if we must continuously grow we need to be lifelong learners.

Learn new skills whenever you have the chance, and find new ways to carry out old tasks. Ask questions and be in the learning path always.

  • Perhaps we fear challenging ourselves, or stepping out of our comfort zones.

It’s natural to want to stay within the confines of our comfort zone especially when it seems to be working. This is okay if you have truly found happiness in it, but if not, then you have to take a deep breath, strengthen your resolve and step out to see what the world has to offer. You’ll almost be certain to have a wonderful experience if you decide to challenge yourself.