No More Excuses

I had a visit from one of my closest friends. She came in to town to see a dentist. It was nice seeing her after so many months.

I was reminded of the need to keep in better touch with my friends, few as they are already.

She excitedly broke the news that she will be getting married before the end of the year, and I’m obviously happy for her.

All around me people are either getting bigger n better career opportunities, or getting married. I don’t want to feel pressured but considering that I’m neither at my dream career path or in any promising relationship, I can’t help but feel exactly that – pressured.

My relationship status is not nearly as worrisome as the fact that I feel myself getting farther and farther away from my dreams and ambitions.

I feel like somewhere, somehow I missed my true calling and can’t get back on track. My mission starting today is to try all I can, with everything I have (talents & skills), to get myself back on track. No more excuses!

4 Lessons I Learned From Failing So Hard In 2021

I am sitting here at my favorite take out place (mostly because it’s so close to my workplace) and thinking of all the things I actually wanted to do last year. How many of those are worth keeping, and how many should I toss?

I remember I wanted to travel. Actually, I want to travel every year and I probably always will. Unfortunately though I rarely do, and didn’t do any in 2021. Of all my expectations, I think this has to be my most regretful. So of course this would be staying for sure in 2022, and I look forward to sharing my travel experience. Hopefully.

But most importantly, I want to share four things I’m doing differently in 2022 from the lessons I learned in 2021.

  1. Maximizing Every Moment: Obviously this is simply to live every moment to the fullest, taking as much pleasure as you can from each experience and making the most of every situation or opportunity.

Life is not about a destination. It’s about the ride.

If for example you have a job, that may or may not be your dream job, but as long as you choose to do it then you must give it your all.

Or you’re in a relationship. Give yourself to it without holding back. Whatever you’re doing, throw yourself into it, your head, your heart and all your energy.

2. Do More:

I resolved that in 2022, I’ll be a doer and not just a dreamer.

Do you have goals? Or maybe some expectations?

Then you must have a well thought out plan for accomplishing your goal(s).

More importantly though is the need to put your plan into ACTION. Create action plans towards achieving each goal, and then act on them.

Don’t hesitate, or wait to be perfect. Just act. Take that first step now!

3. Fear Less:

Now this is a notorious one! “What if I fail?” Or “What will people say?” These statements have killed more dreams than any other singular reason.

Just how many people have failed even to attempt achieving their goals out of fear and self doubt.

But the truth is that you never actually know what you can do until you try, and you never really regret trying something, even if you fail at it.

So do what you have to do. You certainly cannot spend your life always worrying about the petty feelings of others.

4. Stay Consistent: 

This has been the  #1 challenge in achieving my goal of becoming a writer! I know I have more work to put in for that to happen starting with my conviction, and there’s no better way to demonstrate that but to take action right where you are.

To be great at anything you have to practice, practice, and practice some more until it becomes a part of you. That is the only way to achieve your goal and excel in anything you want to do.

No shortcuts and no compromise. I know this, I just have to live it.

So although we’re in the last quarter of 2022 (where did the time go?), I believe it’s not too late to make this a good year.

I for one am resolving right now to get moving on those goals I had set for the year.

How about you?

There’s no better time to start than now, so just take a deep breath, and push your feet forward!

Newlore Storyboard: 7 Things I’ll Do If I Could Do Anything. Books & More.

What would you be doing right now if you could do absolutely anything?

This question actually inspired me to put together my anything-is-possible list and I had so much fun doing it that I wonder why it took me this long.

I also discovered that pouring out your heart desires (those things you would absolutely do if there were no restrictions or fears), is a very therapeutic and inspiring process. Who would have known right?


A Stranger’s Perspective

Oddly enough, I was inspired to do this exercise by an ex-stranger (who is now my newest friend).

I recently met someone who despite not knowing anything about me, and even while trying to give himself a mental lift (perhaps because of that) was brutally honest and surprisingly insightful towards me.

He made me realize I was too afraid to visualize my desires for fear of failing to achieve them.

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So I decided to make a list of everything I wanted in my life, disregarding any pre-conceived notions I have of why they ‘may not be possible’ as the next step towards my desired life. I call this step;

ACKNOWLEDGING YOUR DESIRES

  1. Traveling: I would absolutely love to go on a world tour, continent by continent. Of course I don`t plan on going to every single country! But, I actually have a number of countries/places in each continent that I would love to see.
  2. Writing: Oh, would I love to become a professional writer, with published works in different languages and in different countries? Absolutely! I have starting this path, now to grow while staying consistent is all I need.
  3. Languages: So I want to be fluent in French, Mandarin and Italian. Oh my gosh, that would be such a dream!
  4. Become my own boss: Of everything on this list, this is the one I feel the most urgency to achieve, and I most certainly will.
  5. Natural living: This I have actually started, but I am taking such tiny baby steps that I feel the need to take one very bold step into the natural lifestyle I desire.
  6. Earn a 2nd degree: This time, I want a degree in arts (my 1st degree is in sciences). I would really love to have a degree that would help me cross cultural boundaries, like languages.
  7. Gain a 2nd & maybe 3rd citizenship: I want to gain a 2nd citizenship besides my country`s. I want to immerse myself in other cultures as much as I can, while having my home country to come back to.

From my list, it`s obvious (and I just realized this myself) that my greatest desire is not just to see what else is out there, but to cross the cultural boundaries set by default for me from birth.

Acknowledge your desired life, then design it.

Haven admitted my desires, I actually don`t know why I haven`t been sincere to myself about what I wanted and started earnestly working towards them, because they are absolutely achievable!

So what is keeping you from living your desired life?

Have you acknowledged what you desire in that life?

What would you do if you could do absolutely anything you wanted?


Weekly Book Picks

What I’m reading:

This week’s picks (#bookishreads) were based on my need for depth and answers to questions about society, humanity, our individual choices and how these choices shape our world.

The first book is a true gem I discovered recently that provides a culturally diverse, yet unified perspective of our world today.

One of my consistent desires – world travel, has been made even more difficult by the pandemic and global restrictions.

However, Around the World in 80 Books is an experience that transports you from coast to coast, culture to culture through selected works of literature.

The memoir written by David Damrosch is a much needed global call to look past ourselves and our surroundings, and to see our world in new ways through it’s inter-connected literature.

Around the World in 80 Books

…..Damrosch includes compelling contemporary works as well as perennial classics, hard-bitten crime fiction as well as haunting works of fantasy, and the formative tales that introduce us as children to the world we’re entering.

Taken together, these eighty titles offer us fresh perspective on enduring problems, from the social consequences of epidemics to the rising inequality that Thomas More designed Utopia to combat;

as well as the patriarchal structures within and against which many of these books’ heroines have to struggle—from the work of Murasaki Shikibu a millennium ago to Margaret Atwood today.

Amazon books.

The second book pick is an old favorite of mine, so beloved like an old friend you go to when things start losing their meaning – like they tend to do in life.

The Seeker of Truth is a highly underrated book series that more people need to read for the sheer brilliance of the author in weaving together complex societal themes & principles into such a relatable and adventurous read.

Seeker of Truth Series by Terry Goodkind

This series is incredibly long so I’ll likely read it through October but that’s okay.

For the first time ever, I’ll be writing a review of the series so it should be even more worthwhile.

Svetlana Alexievich Reminds Me of How to Be Human

Sometimes I need to forget I’m an introvert.

Svetlana Alexievich Reminds Me of How to Be Human

This piece is so painfully relatable. It’s crazy how we complain about the banality of our existence yet are connecting less and less with each other. Life is about connection.

I do this often myself. Shut myself off because it’s too hard to connect then find myself wondering what more there is to living. This is it right here.

So yeah the problem is me not them. And I definitely need to turn off my introvert and open myself more to life.

Beware, The Perfect Excuse for Failure

We’re all Oliver Twist, and we all want some more. Some more time, more wealth, more skills, more opportunities.

Yet, what are we doing with the little we already have? That is this week’s #questionoftheweek.

One of the most famous quotes in Charles Dickens 1945 allegory was a phrase by the titular character;

Please sir, I want some more.

Oliver Twist

Not surprisingly many who haven’t even read the novella are quite familiar with the phrase, though its interpretation in today’s use depends on its user.

To me, in this context I’ll like to think it quite relates to all of us. To how we all seek just a little more of something, sometimes genuinely blind to what we already have, other times as the perfect excuse for our failure to actually do something, anything.

I used to say there’s not enough hours in the day to do everything I wanted to do, but then I decided to really see what I did with my 24hrs and the reality of how much of my time (and life) I wasted on a daily basis was seriously alarming.

I realized that while I was ‘busy’ pretty much all day, I was hardly accomplishing anything. And this ‘busyness’ is like a plague that is ravaging our society right now.

We feel the need to keep up the appearance of being ‘busy’ regardless of if we’re accomplishing something or not. Most times in fact to mask the fact that we’re accomplishing nothing.

I discovered that many things I thought I couldn’t do, or didn’t have just required a change in perspective.

Then there’s the issue of our talents and capabilities.

What we have we don’t use, yet we’re constantly on the lookout, searching and praying for more.

I have personally decided to use the word ‘busy’ only when my hands and feet are tied up. Literally!

Okay maybe not literally but you get the point. Also, whenever I find myself about to complain of what I don’t have, I’ll force myself to first do an assessment of what I do have.

The result is that my gratitude level has been in an all time high! I am seeing myself in a new, positive yet ‘real’ light and it’s such a wonderful feeling!

I discovered that many things I thought I couldn’t do, or didn’t have just required a change in perspective.

So asking for more is all well and good, but let’s take some time to honestly assess our current capabilities and I can promise you that you’re not nearly as lacking as you might think.

At the very least, we can establish the mentality of adding to what we already have rather than living with the belief that we have little to nothing.

The danger of this mentality is that we develop the crippling habit of doing nothing – a very easy habit to fall into, especially when all you have to do is — nothing.

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Questions for consideration

  1. What is it that you’re currently seeking?
  2. What skills do you think you lack that’s limiting you from taking the needed action?
  3. Have you done an honest assessment lately of what skills and abilities you already have?
  4. When was the last time you congratulated yourself for how far you’ve come?
  5. Have you counted your blessings recently?

We all know what we should be doing right now, or at least what we need to accomplish at this moment.

Then why aren’t we doing them? Why aren’t we chasing those goals and acting on our abundant ideas?

Simple; The comfort of “doing nothing” has become a habit!

It’s incredibly easy and safe, no expectations and no disappointments, so of course it’s the easiest habit to acquire.

But is it the happiest? Or the most fulfilling? Or even the most worthwhile way to spend our lives? I don’t think so.

The Solution; Break The Cycle!

Try small steps everyday instead of doing nothing

How? Start Doing Something, Anything Right Where You Are.

Get up, pick up that piece of paper and start planning;

You want to travel? Open a savings account for your travel fund (this one’s for me).

You want to get a degree? Start researching what you need and how to register right now for that degree and climb the finance mountain when you get there.

You want to improve your social life or get a partner? Start accepting (and sending if necessary) invitations, to go out whether you feel like it or not.

Want to learn a skill? Sign up for that course you’ve been dreaming of taking but have been too practical or afraid to try.

You may find the problems you imagine (like money) might not be absolutely necessary to get started. Basically, resolve not to sit still anymore.

It’s your life you’re wasting “doing nothing” and you can’t get it back. It is absolutely not okay to spend it going through the motions.

Do not let the comfort of “searching” or “waiting for the right time” become your excuse for Inaction. Reject it now!

Remember that doing something beats doing nothing everytime, no matter the outcome of trying.

You want to build your dream house but you don’t have the funds, then start buying bricks!

It may sound silly buying bricks when you don’t have money to build, but try it and you’ll be amazed how things just come together by themselves.

What good will sitting and wishing do? The end result is that you’ll sacrifice those desires and have lived an unhappy life.

Happiness is not as unattainable as we make it out to be, if we can just start doing something, anything towards our own fulfillment.

The Logic:

Of course planting a forest is a daunting task for anybody, but those who have succeeded understand the principle of planting one tree at a time.

No more excuses

Happiness will not come to us, we need to reach it by taking one step after another towards our desires and it is through the journey that we attain fulfillment not the destination.

Just remember that happiness is a means not an end.

My Inspiration For This Week Is: Be Positive. The Universe Will Do The Rest.

Do you think nobody is listening to your thoughts & words?

Of course, the universe is listening. So if you say you can, you can; and if you believe you cannot then you most definitely will be proven true either way.

The universe is listening. God is listening; Even the devil is listening to the words you proclaim, so do yourself a favor and speak only what you want to manifest, and surround yourself with the energy you wish to replicate in your life.

I remember coming back from work on Saturday night and feeling terribly depressed. I thought of (and not for the first time) how little I am able to do towards so much more I could be doing.

I felt I deserved better than a job that swallows up almost all my waking hours. I basically spent my weekend in this depressive state and dreaded the coming week.

Anyway, I woke up Monday morning feeling highly unmotivated (as expected). And after I dragged myself up from bed, while in the shower, I suddenly had an epiphany.

Well, more like my inner voice suddenly and very emphatically said to me – STOP COMPLAINING!

Do you think nobody is listening to your thoughts & words?

The universe is listening to your negativity, God is listening to your ingratitude and the devil is rejoicing at his seeming victory over you. Make it a point to always BE POSITIVE & GRATEFUL and it will transform your life.

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Amazingly, It felt like I had just woken from a very long sleep. I felt energized, and it occurred to me that I had so much to be thankful for and much more to hope for.

I have my family, great friends, good health, a fairly well paying job and most importantly, I have my passion.

So why not embrace life and make the best of all that you currently have while keeping your vision and your dream in your sights as you roll through life’s hurdles.

That could work, right? So BE POSITIVE! That’s my inspiration for this week.

On What It Means To be A Woman

As we celebrate women this March, here are some fun tidbits on;

What It Means To be a Woman

A Woman Should Always

  • Have enough money to pay for her meal and her way back home when she goes on a date, even if she doesn’t need to
  • Appear flawlessly groomed and impeccably dressed to the best of her capacity
  • Dress flatteringly, but never less than respectable
  • Remember what an honor it is to be a woman, and revel in it!
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A Woman Should Know

  • How to love,
  • when to be soft for her man and when to be strong for him

A Woman Should Learn

  • To respect herself first and foremost
  • To always respect her man even when she needs to reprimand him
  • To always respect her mother-in-law, even though she might not deserve it.

A Woman Should Never

  • Resort to violence and cheap tricks to attain something, when she has her wit.
  • Forget that her most important asset is her mind and not her body.
  • Abandon her dignity, even under pressure.
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A Woman

A Woman Understands

  • That self respect and dignity are most definitely not outdated
  • That publicly trading insults with a man or another woman is abhorrent and must avoid that at all cost
  • That meaningless affairs sound good and interesting in theory, but in reality does her more harm than good emotionally and psychologically.

Happy International Women’s Day.

Celebrate Women!

The Sounds of Silence: A Reading List About Listening to Nature

Kindling a new awareness of the outdoors wasn’t something the author predicted, but it brought a host of realizations — including the discovery of …

The Sounds of Silence: A Reading List About Listening to Nature

Lately I’ve also found great comfort and enjoyment in listening to instrumentals. Particularly the nature sounds. I find them spiritually refreshing and calming.

Here’s a link to 1 or 2 from YouTube;

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=6ixhN9umyp4&feature=share