Falling is real. So is the joy of rising up stronger, and ultimately standing in the winners’ circle!
So what do I know about falling down? Quite a lot actually; And I can bet I’m not the only one who can relate so well with failing again and again to reach that goal, or repeatedly facing rejection, or simply being too scared to follow your dreams for fear of failing.
Once I lost a loved one, and with that came the sudden realization of my own mortality, and my drive was replaced by fear. I lost my motivation as I suddenly had a deep understanding of how things could go very wrong, and felt they always would. But do they really? No they don’t.
We’ve all heard success stories of those who dared to persist and succeeded, but most importantly is the need to live life to the fullest. To dream, and to follow that dream to wherever it could lead. To fly and see just how high you can reach.
But how can we take the chance to fly when we fear to fall?
Funny enough what brought me out of my abyss of fear was still a fear of not dreaming again, of not knowing the places I could go, and the things I could see.
I really really want to fly, and see for myself what’s beyond the clouds – and I mean that literally and figuratively.
I was in the company of some friends this past week and in the middle of something I was saying, someone suddenly interrupted me asking; “why do you always say you’re too busy to have a steady relationship?”
So I started to defend myself as usual but somewhere along the line, I realized I wasn’t fooling anybody, not even me. How in the name of all that’s good do you not have time to connect with other people?
I had gotten so used to ‘being too busy to love’ that I’ve alienated my friends, and even myself from making new friends. But the truth was that somewhere deep inside, it boiled down to being afraid of being hurt.
This is an emotion we all feel, the fear of hurt. we are afraid to be hurt or perhaps have been hurt before and so we mistrust our instinc and build walls around our emotions and feelings.
Many of us can relate to the challenges that life imposes on our time and health (mental & physical), and it’s easy to use this as as excuse to isolate ourselves from the people in our lives when what we need most is a little joy and understanding from loved ones.
I incidentally came across a message by Michelle Obama that made me realize how much we cheat ourselves by refusing to truly share ourselves with others. . .
Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts … good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with. —Michelle Obama.
Of course this is not to say that it’s feeling good all the way once you decide to share yourself intimately with others. I’m sure there’ll be hurt here and there, but the good moments should outweigh the bad.
And so for the chance to make cherished memories, to live a worthwhile life and to leave lasting impressions in the hearts of the people I encounter in my life’s journey, I choose to love!
So you dragged yourself up from bed after barely enough sleep and you wonder just how you’ll make it through the day? Or perhaps through the week? Well, you’re not alone and I must confess I know exactly how you feel most days.
Considering how tough it is to stay on track, and how tempting it can be to take the easy way out and just go with the mood of the day (unfortunately, we wouldn’t get anything done that way); How do we ensure that we do not lose our momentum more than half way through the year? And that we achieve everything we set for ourselves this year?
Just remember that each moment you’re still in the race is already a victory.
Here are 5 easy tips to help you keep the momentum and stay motivated
Make a habit of waking up an hour or 2 earlier everyday
Avoid having to rush through your morning routine and starting the day without a plan.
Visualize your day
It’s not enough to list just the tasks you need to accomplish, but it’s important to visualize the time & resources needed to accomplish each task.
Cultivate a positive mental attitude using affirmations
These affirmations will not just help you develop a positive mental attitude, but also boost your self confidence and keep you motivated.
Eliminate distractions & interruptions
Set out some time each day when you’ll allow no interruptions from people or technology.
At the end of each day, dedicate some time to reflect on what you accomplished or didn’t, and things you could have done better. Cultivate a habit of gratitude.
Remember that being a work in progress is a victory too! So celebrate each day as it comes.
Of course I’m just as excited for the end of the work week and the coming rest days, or day in my case…and that, exactly is the problem – I work 6 days a week including Saturdays!
So for anybody who like me has a very very short weekend, ever wonder how to fit in all you have to do and still be able to have some time for yourself?
For me I use a weekend bucket list!
Of course it doesn’t mean you have to set some stiff goals for yourself for the weekend, but more like a wish list plus some necessary chores you have to take care of over the weekend.
This way you don’t feel overwhelmed through out the day or 2 you have, and wake up to the new week feeling just as tired as the end of the previous week.
This is basically my weekend bucket list, simple and relaxed. Courtesy: Google Keep
The wish list is important to remind me of things I want to do (and will definitely do) once I get any opportunity to – like a work leave or vacation!
You can create yours however you like, as long as you keep in mind to make it simple and practical.
And here are some tips to have a successful weekend (finish your tasks, have some well deserved rest and be ready for the new work week)
Wake up at the same time
Resist the temptation to stay in bed all morning and you’ll find your day will be longer and more productive. Dedicate some hours in the morning as me time. You can choose to dance to a playlist, do some exercise or self care. Whatever will kick-start your weekend in a happy and relaxed mood.
We all think we have far more things to do than actually needs to get done at that particular time. So it’s best to make a list of everything you feel you need to do, then minimize the list as much as possible. The absolute worst way to spend a rest day is to cram it with chores.
Spend quality time with loved ones
The weekend is undoubtedly a good time to reconnect with family and friends. My family lives far away so I can’t see them as much as I want to, but I dedicate some time on Sunday afternoons to have long, refreshing phone calls with them, and I can assure you it’s a wonderful feeling.
Disconnect from the internet
So you have a day or 2 to refresh yourself, and you spend most of it answering work emails or stuck in the social media web – very bad idea! Best thing to do for yourself is disconnect temporarily while you mind other more personally rewarding activities.
So after a good look at my first half of this month, I realized that the greatest challenge I faced was in one word – distractions! Particularly minding other people’s businesses, and having my mornings snatched away from me.
Having a schedule to follow is obviously a great way to manage your time, but sticking to it sometimes could seem to require a bit of divine intervention.
Using myself as a case study, a typical day goes like this;
I create my to do list and schedule my more important tasks. I plan to start my day off with some writing, then just as I come into the office I get a consuming phone call from family or a friend. Dropping that, I find myself dragged into resolving somebody else’s problems, and for the rest of the day I’m putting out other people’s fires and trying to solve problems that are just popping up out of no where. Just like that my well laid plans go up in flames!
Many of us start out our days with a pretty good plan, and a resolve to make the best of our time, but in reality our well meaning intentions are usually short lived.
So how do you prevent your own distractions or the needs of others from impeding your plans?
Prioritize your tasks by making a list:
This is basically a list of the tasks you need to accomplish for the day arranged in order of importance, difficulty and urgency. This helps you feel less pressure and more in control of your time. It also constantly keeps you mindful of what you have waiting for you to do.
2. Eliminate all interruptions:
This may include unannounced visits from people, calls, emails and so on. Give yourself some time during each day where you restrict all outside interruptions. You absolutely should not start the day with checking emails. Best time to do that is while having breakfast, commuting, at your break time or at a fixed time you set out particularly for it.
Unless its your job, stay as far away from social media as possible!
3. Set targets & deadlines:
If you don’t deliberately make a task a necessity, then it almost always doesn’t get done.
Set a target/deadline for your tasks by deciding for example; a certain task must get done before you have lunch or before you get up from your seat. This will help you focus more on the task at hand.
You can use rewards (i.e lunch) and punishments (i.e not getting up before a certain task is finished) to motivate yourself into much higher productivity levels.
Taking control and effectively managing the first few hours of your day is the trick to becoming far more productive than ever, so give it a real shot and you’ll be surprised where it takes you this year.