The Power of Dreams

The reason most dreams don’t come true is that they are forgotten as soon as their dreamers wake up

This world is shaped by dreamers. In innovations of science and technology, in medicine, in arts, in philosophy, it has been the dreamers in each generation who visualized how far we’ve come as a race and took the first imperfect steps towards the unknown future that we are at now. It will also take those who have the guts to dream, and the commitment to not forget their dreams in the wake of life’s struggles to chart the way to our own future.

I used to take pride in being an extremely practical person. It was only until recently that I came to understand something vital; that pragmatism is a shield! A shield we use to navigate life’s hurdles & uncertainties. Through my life, I have learned that my pragmatic nature (my shield) in an attempt to protect me from disappointment has gradually suppressed my dreams and desires until I came to the shocking realization that I almost do not want anything more than what I have or where I am at the moment, which is absolutely unacceptable.

However, I am thankful that I haven’t forgotten my dreams and the desires I have for my life. Coming to this realization any later and perhaps I would have! And this is the same for so many people out there. It’s not that we do not dream, but we are forced by life to suppress or forget them in order to “survive”.

If a dream is easily forgettable, then perhaps it was never worth it. But if you must dream, then you should dream big, long and hard!

I have decided to breathe life back into my dream, and somehow find a way to live out my desired life little by little. If I must struggle, then I should at least be able to struggle towards my desires. I refuse to live a life of regret. I will have my dream in my heart always, even if it can only be alive there; I will live my life chasing it, and even at my end, I want to know I lived for something I chose.

I Choose Acceptance

I recently found myself engaging (unwisely) in a heated debate about the will of God for us.

The funny thing is that I enjoy a good argument most times but not when it’s about religion or politics. I find that each person has his/her views (and should be allowed to), and these arguments never really end in mutual understanding.

And so as a rule, I run the other way whenever I find myself in such moments, but for some reason I managed to be caught in the middle of this one.

My philosophy regarding this is quite simple;

I have my religion and political & personal views and you have yours. I uphold my beliefs and you uphold yours. Together we do our best to practice our beliefs, keeping in mind the core principles of love and peace that binds us all together.

I find it odd that people spend hours arguing that this way is the right way or that that way is wrong, and they carry on with such conviction! I think it’s a great thing to have strong beliefs & views and hold them close to your heart, but not to hold them above other people’s.

Personally I believe that the glue that will keep us united as one world is not one religion, or political view but love. Love of your neighbour, regardless of their views or differences and a desire to accommodate those differences.

Our differences in culture, language and beliefs is what makes the world such a beautiful place. I certainly don’t want it any other way, I just want people to be nicer to each other.

“We need more light about each other. Light creates understanding, understanding creates love, love creates patience, and patience creates unity.” Malcom X.

So let’s preach love and not superiority, let’s choose acceptance and celebrate each other’s differences and uniqueness!

Together let’s do our parts in upholding peace & embracing unity and who knows? We may actually achieve world peace. Or simply make the world just a little bit better.

Happy Pride Month!

The Perfect Excuse

It’s funny actually when people excuse their wrong doing by saying ‘nobody’s perfect’. Well, of course nobody’s perfect. That’s the whole reason this life’s so beautiful and each of us is a unique miracle. Unfortunately, this has also become the perfect excuse to neglect our individual duty as human beings.

Personally I find it pointless to chase perfection for the same reason I celebrate the fact that nobody is or should be perfect. Instead, I believe that each of us as humans owe it to ourselves and to others to do our best to live our lives in a way that we cause as little harm as possible to others, while we stay as true as we can to our own nature. And whenever the chance arises, to perhaps even do some good as well.

This balance to me is what it means to be a human being. Whether we do this by upholding certain moral values or we choose to live by our own personal values, what matters ultimately is that we do less harm and more good.

Happy Independence Day Nigeria

 60 years ago, some brave God-fearing and proud men stood up and came together to claim the right to freedom and independence of our beloved country. Most of those men are now dead but their work isn’t, and the fight is far from over. If brave, God-fearing and proud Nigerians fail to stand up in their stead today, in unity and love, then all that was once won will be lost. In the words of Richelle Goodrich, let us take a moment to appreciate the true beauty of freedom

without freedom I am a slave in shackles on a ship lost at sea. With freedom I am a captain; I am a pirate; I am an admiral; I am a scout; I am the eagle souring overhead; I am the north star guiding a crew; I am the ship itself; I am whatever I choose to be.

For every Nigerian, the 1st of October is not simply a commemoration of our Independence, It is a celebration of our freedom, our unity and life itself. Peace, Love and Unity – that is and

60 years ago, some brave God-fearing and proud men stood up and came together to claim the right to freedom and independence of our beloved country. Most of those men are now dead but their work isn’t, and the fight is far from over. If brave, God-fearing and proud Nigerians fail to stand up in their stead today, in unity and love, then all that was once won will be lost. In the words of Richelle Goodrich, let us take a moment to appreciate the true beauty of freedom

without freedom I am a slave in shackles on a ship lost at sea. With freedom I am a captain; I am a pirate; I am an admiral; I am a scout; I am the eagle souring overhead; I am the north star guiding a crew; I am the ship itself; I am whatever I choose to be.

For every Nigerian, the 1st of October is not simply a commemoration of our Independence, It is a celebration of our freedom, our unity and life itself. Peace, Love and Unity – that will always be my prayer for my country.

Tia Nnebo

Her Lost Days

Looking back, perhaps we saw it coming. Maybe we didn’t want to see the fear she tried so hard to hide. Or maybe we just couldn’t face the truth – that we could do nothing for her, and so chose not to see it. But it was there, right there in her flirty smile, and in the gentle slant of her brown eyes – the way they stare at nothing when she thought no one was looking.

Oh but she was ever so sweet and chatty! That you wanted to be near her, to listen to her go on  and on about some topic that caught her fancy. But we knew, that she was barely holding on to the facade of normalcy and independence!

Oh why did we not just say to her “how are you doing”?

Why did we pretend to not see her silent suffering? Why did we pretend to not hear the tears in her laughter? How do we say to ourselves that once upon a time, we had a choice to save a life, but we chose wrong. She was one of us; a sister, a friend, a neighbor, a stranger. She believed like we do, she feared like we do, and once upon a day, she will find us and through her eyes we will see that just like her, we are only human.

A Good Day To Be Thankful!

There’s no greater magnet of positive energy and ultimately success than a grateful heart. Do not allow your heart to dwell on your failures or unfavorable circumstances, instead remind yourself always of how far you’ve come. We experience so many miracles every day that it’s literally impossible to run out of things to be grateful for.

My gratitude mission this year is to write in my journal 3 things that I’m thankful for each day. For today, I am thankful for:

  1. Waking up well and staying healthy
  2. My mum just recovered from an illness (that could have gotten much worse) and is more positive & energetic than ever!
  3. Truly working on and keeping to my goals for the year.

These are incredibly important things to me personally, and I cannot overstate how thankful I am for them.

In the hustle and bustle of our everyday lives we not only fail to appreciate these little things that matter the most, but also the kind deeds of others to us. We’re all guilty of focusing on our own problems, and overlooking the kindness/difficulties of others. Yet we cannot imagine how far our gesture of appreciation could go in someone’s life or even in our lives when we express our thanks to the Almighty.

“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” . . . William Arthur Ward

So be thankful for what you have now, and how far you’ve come and you’ll pave the way for more blessings and positivity in your life. It’s truly not easy to have come this far, nor is our circumstances entirely within our control, so what are you grateful for right now?

Its Not About The Dream, It’s About The Ride

What is the point in achieving those goals and dreams when we lose so much in the process. Don’t be so focused on getting to your destination that you forget to enjoy the ride, and miss beautiful the scenery along the way. Life can be hard, and our dreams may sometimes take a roundabout route, but as long as we have the mindset that it’s not about the dream, but the journey to reach it that matters then we will definitely have no regrets in life!

Many people become so obsessed with achieving success that they forget why they were chasing those dreams in the first place. How many people remember all the things they said they would do once they succeeded? And how many still remember their childhood dreams? Not many. Achieving success should never come at the steep cost of your health and happiness. You have to make a conscious choice to be happy, to live right now instead of at some distant time in the future. Why postpone your happiness when you have no control over your life?

Remember to never forget the reason you started your journey in the first place, the dreams you had and the things you cherished. Refuse to settle for a success that will become hollow once you attain it, for what is the point of gaining the world if you lose your soul?

Here are tips to help you improve the quality of your life, and add value to your success;

  • Take time off to unwind. While chasing your dreams and ambitions, remember to take some time off to decompress and unwind from life’s demands. This may seem like a waste of time while we chase after tight schedules and deadlines, but great inspiration has been known to arise from moments when we take ourselves off the usual day to day life. Let yourself recharge and be energized anew.
  • Mind Your Health. It may seem sometimes that success is synonymous with poor health and sleepless nights, but this couldn’t be more untrue. Many highly successful entrepreneurs who have made it to the very top will attest to the fact that health is indeed wealth! Don’t make a habit of grabbing quick lunches and takeouts for dinner. It’s very important that you pay attention to what you eat.
  • Get Enough Sleep. Believe it or not, you can achieve your dreams and still get the required hours of sleep your body needs to function properly. Stop looking for more time, declutter your life and get rid of unnecessary responsibilities, then stop for a good nap from time to time. There will always be more responsibilities so force yourself to stop if you have to.
  • Exercise Regularly. Exercise energizes your body, improves your health and greatly reduces stress. Form the habit of regularly exercising and your body will thank you.

So discover your purpose, set out to achieve it and stay the course! But also remember to enjoy the scenery along the way.

Football Mania

“So you’re the new one” said the stranger in a cold voice. “The one that was talking about football I’m told”.
“Erm… I suppose” replied Marie.

“What was that about football?” asked Charley.

“That surprised me too” said Marie.

“I think he meant when you mentioned your favourite footballer the other day at the club house” helped Rylyn.

“But he wasn’t even there” argued Marie. “I feel like I’m being badmouthed” she grumped.

“Oh well…that’s kind of what they do there you know”, “talk of others I mean” said Rylyn.

“Aww come on Mariri” joked Charley. “So who is it”?

“Don’t call me that” said Marie still a little miffed.

“Who is who”? Asked Rylyn.

“Mariri’s favourite footballer” reminded Charley.

“Oh that’s Mohammed Salah”. “Right Marie?”

“Oh yea” answered Marie excitedly. “I like Messi too but he isn’t doing so well right now”, she added.

“I heard he lost a lot of matches” said Rylyn curiously.

“He didn’t lose matches, his team did! He just didn’t do so well himself” snapped Marie.

“Careful Rylykins, Mariri hates badmouths” quipped Charley.

“I just don’t think it’s fair that he’s made to take the blame for his team’s losses. And don’t call me that Charley!” Replied Marie.

“What’s up?” greeted John as he walked in.

“Oh hi Johnny, we were just talking about football…and football players” replied Charley.

“Oh did you guys see the match last night though?” asked John loudly.

“Of course, that was so epic!” answered Marie even more fired up.

“Was it really?” asked Rylyn curiously.

“Oh it was” said Charley thrilled. “Nigeria scored two super amazing goals against Iceland” he finished quickly. “And both goals were scored by one person too. Ahmed Musa!” added Marie.

“Ahh I wish I watched it!” said Rylyn unhappily.

“Don’t worry Rylyn, let’s watch the next match together. And we’ll cheer for them too!” encouraged Marie.